tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1550222691875074441.post2506070158124514094..comments2024-01-30T05:25:56.085-07:00Comments on A Teacher's View: Pepper Spray & Eight-Year-Oldsmmazenkohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06602797515366983639noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1550222691875074441.post-74788765260092787292011-04-11T15:50:37.682-06:002011-04-11T15:50:37.682-06:00Ahh, you are saying it's BECAUSE she has to li...Ahh, you are saying it's BECAUSE she has to live with him that she would give in to his demands... whereas I'm saying why would she give in to his demands BECAUSE she has to live with him in the long-term.<br /><br />I've never, never seen a parent that shortsighted. <br /><br />If you see many of them... and most people DO send their children to school... we are all in big trouble.Happy Elf Mom (Christine)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15047347624037697311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1550222691875074441.post-46531846646580949792011-04-11T07:09:10.647-06:002011-04-11T07:09:10.647-06:00It is that simple. Eighteen years of teaching and...It is that simple. Eighteen years of teaching and nine years of parenting has taught me at least that much. There is no way she is working with a therapist or even aware that she should. I've seen to much on this parent to conclude she is anything other than pathetic.<br /><br />Because the mother has to live with him, she gives in to his every demand at home - which are probably pretty simple demands.<br /><br />Thus, at school, where there are expectations for doing things he doesn't want to do, he explodes.<br /><br />There are countless parents out there who are simply incompetent. And it's a real shame.mmazenkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06602797515366983639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1550222691875074441.post-69029344979618072742011-04-11T06:05:11.110-06:002011-04-11T06:05:11.110-06:00Perhaps. But having a severely autistic child mys...Perhaps. But having a severely autistic child myself, and three who are able to speak, I can tell you that sometimes there are food issues as part of the condition itself. I know there are in my house!<br /><br />I'm not saying the kid wasn't WAY OUT THERE or that it isn't possible this is simply a bad family. I have to admit to also being surprised that the child could do all that but still be allowed video games. BUT. I also know as a mom with ABA involved with an older son that sometimes the behaviour specialists want to plan those reward times in for this or that, build on small successes and the like. I'm going to just figure that she simply must have an ABA therapist in. There just isn't any other conceivable way a parent would let their kid play video games after an incident like that otherwise. <br /><br />Well, unless she's just a bad mom like you said. I just can't imagine it's that simple. I mean... whyyy would a mother not give her son good instruction if she has to live with him? Makes no sense...Happy Elf Mom (Christine)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15047347624037697311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1550222691875074441.post-29368807667905997772011-04-10T19:30:32.850-06:002011-04-10T19:30:32.850-06:00Many, many behavioral problems are distinctly a re...Many, many behavioral problems are distinctly a result of lifestyle - that is parenting and diet/exercise. In a couple of interviews, this mother asserted that doctors have said his problem is not chemical/psychological. Clearly, it is parenting. And if his mother looks like she does, and there lifestyle is that obvious, that boys weight is not a side effect of meds. You and I know that mom was not cooking healthy dinner, promoting exercise, and reading each night ... or ever.<br /><br />My wife is studying nutrition and nutrition therapy, and I firmly believe diet and lifestyle are the root of this boy's issues, as well as similar problems for numerous young people. I know of people whose children have IEPs and seriously diagnosed illnesses such as Asperger's. They have made dramatic changes in behavior through lifestyle changes. I have no doubt that could be true for many people.<br /><br />And I am not saying that all cases of behavior disabilities could be healed with a healthy diet. But I am saying that many behavior problems are not medical but lifestyle - and that includes diet. And that is without doubt relevant in this case.mmazenkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06602797515366983639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1550222691875074441.post-61690982178959701752011-04-10T14:05:03.530-06:002011-04-10T14:05:03.530-06:00Wait, did you listen to the interview? Where the ...Wait, did you listen to the interview? Where the mom said the kid gained weight on the meds? I think you're being a bit unfair just because the child and his mom are fat and they HAPPENED to show him playing video games in the segment. You and I both know the mom could have been cooking dinner and reading for five hours straight and we wouldn't see that on the video. It all depends on what the editors want to "convey." Ever see some of the cray-zee "unschooling" videos out there? They choose the goofiest people out there and then make 'em look like nuts. <br /><br />I'm not saying the kid is right or even that he shouldn't have been pepper-sprayed. ANY time you have violence to that degree, you can't go back and "talk down." BUT I think instead of casting blame on the school, the cops or the kid that they should get some ABA people in there, see what the antecedents are and how to minimise this sort of thing from happening again. There are often ways to prevent things from escalating to this point. <br /><br />And I hope that district is using a PBS model and not the punitive BIST that ours uses. More often than not, BIST techniques can escalate behaviours in disabled or unstable children. Which is NOT what anyone wants.<br /><br />And if I were that mom? I'd either be homeschooling, getting a lawyer and looking into stay-put, or moving, or doing meds and who cares how fat the kid gets... if it prevents him from going to prison later, isn't it worth it?? Looks like she's just going to blame the school but send him every day anyway???Happy Elf Mom (Christine)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15047347624037697311noreply@blogger.com